This Can Change Your Life in 2018

by Lakeshia Ekeigwe in Blog

DatePosted on January 03, 2018 at 02:32 PM
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2017 just flew by! There are so many distractions, large and small that can keep us focused on everything but ourselves. We can forget to 'check in' and connect with ideas, goals, hopes, and especially dreams we were eager to accomplish at the start of the year.

Did you accomplish the goals you set for yourself this year?  More importantly, did any of your dreams come true?

  • Did you land an amazing professional opportunity or perhaps realize the dream of hanging your own shingle? 
  • Did you attract love or strengthen the love already present in your life?
  • Did you purchase the home of your dreams or pay off student loan debt?
  •  If your answer to any of these questions is yes, congratulations! How WONDERFUL for you! 

However, if your answer is 'no . . . not yet,' try this: 

ALLOW YOUR DREAMS TO SHOW UP 

How often have you had an amazing daydream or idea pop up into your mind only for you to dismiss it, almost as fast as it showed up? 

You tell yourself: "I can't be, do or have (this or that) . . .

So many women choose to lead lives that do not challenge or inspire them simply because they refuse to dare to allow the dream or idea to fully show up.

Have you ever done that? 

I encourage you to let your dreams and ideas develop before you shut them down.

Don't even consider the reasons why something will not work before you spend time with the thought of it, allowing it to live inside your mind for a while.

Big dreams will scare you! If they don't, they likely are not big enough.

ALLOW YOUR INSPIRATION

TO BECOME YOUR ASPIRATION

To do that, you must BELIEVE. Because what you believe is at the core of everything you do

Henry Ford said: "If you believe you can or believe you can't, you're right.

Belief is what turns your dream into your reality. 

Everything you will accomplish next year has everything to do with what you believe you will accomplish next year. 

Your belief will become your reality. 

For example, you are unhappy with your current work situation. You want to start working for yourself but are afraid to take the leap. The financial costs and overhead are overwhelming, causing you fear and anxiety.

There are a million reasons why you have told yourself - I can't do it . . . I am not ready . . . What if I can't make it on my own? Everyone will think I am a failure.

BUT, you have always dreamed of working for yourself. You have developed a stellar professional reputation and an influential professional network. You have a list of clients that would gladly follow you and gladly refer you to their network.

Or, how about this.

You are single and want to get married but deep down inside you believe no one will ever marry you. 

Your inner critic says you are too fat, too old or too intimidating.

You believe your inner critic.

Your belief will determine how you carry yourself.  The way you carry yourself becomes the non-verbal manifestation of your inner dialog. That self-manifestation will frame others' experience of you. Then, unfortunately, your belief becomes your reality and . . . no one will commit to you on that level. 

Unless you allow the dream to show up and consider all of the reasons why your dream of starting your own firm or getting married is possible, you will never see those dreams come true.

TAKE ACTION AND GET SUPPORT 

If you want to have a different life this year, take action now. 

Yes, now! 

Amid all the busy-ness this time of year brings, take some small daily action now. Even if that action is simply to allow your dreams, ideas even your hopes and wishes to spend time hanging out in your head. That alone is action. 

Then, think about what and whom you will need to enlist to support you in having that dream or idea become a reality. 

Do you need someone to help you get clear and strategize? 

Do you need someone whose only agenda is to reinforce that you can do this? 

That person may be a friend, family member or a professional coach. Just ensure you get the support you need. 

My Rapid Clarity Coaching Process can help you learn how to make your dreams come true in 2018.

Feel free to email me confidentially at lakeshia@coachingattorneys.com.

 

About the Author

Lakeshia Ekeigwe

Lakeshia's motto is, "I coach women lawyers to create lives they LOVE.

Based in the US, Lakeshia is certified as both a Life Coach and separately, a Mediator.  In addition, The Asian-Pacific American Legal Center have recognised her skills in Leadership Development, and Lakeshia is a long time member of Mensa.

Throughout her career spanning nearly 30 years, Lakeshia has had the privilege of working with and coaching lawyers in North America and around the world. Her work particularly focuses on female attorneys and helping them in both their career and life, through one-on-one consultations and webinars.  

To enquire about Lakeshia's coaching services, please email: lakeshia@coachingattorneys.com. In addition, you can find out more about Lakeshia on her website, www.lifeschoolforlawyers.com, and on LinkedIn

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